Accepting no less

[Chimera]

I am so glad to see little names of the emotions up above this post! 
I need all the help I can get with what those faces mean.

So. .  I read one of Oregon Becky's posts and really liked the attitude and followed the link on her profile in WP.  I am SinsBoldly over there.  I hope I am not married to that name, here, though. 
I will always sign myself

Merle

though, ok?

[Oregon Becky]

AspieStimTeam!! Hahaha! I love it!

We have learned a whole lot through the years raising our aspy and autie children and have been happier about our hyper aware selves. Once you learn how to accept people on the spectrum on their terms, everything gets better and better. We learned a lot from a wonderful man who teaches chimpanzees sign language. He told us to accept everyone, human and animal on their terms and begin the relationship from there.

He had no manual on how to teach chimpanzees. He watched them. Each thing they did that made no sense wasn't meaningless but a way to open up new doors of understanding as he figured out why they did what they did.

People on the spectrum have good reasons for what they do. None of it meaningless.

[eScential]

I feel physical pain when I keep reading parents, et. al. saying 'for no reason' 'out of nowhere' and other shocked descriptions of a child/person's behavior. I would not feel this for stating they don't know why especially if they are trying to understand. Knowing they think it is baseless and irrational is so discouraging. I know I look 'normal' until suddenly I don't and freeze. They attack and yell more instead of allowing me to regroup and start processing again. I am so sad children still have to go through this.

I want to have more autism awareness required for medical care providers (to start with) and have a grievance for this now. I found no parents of autism supportive of my approach and wish I could know if I am going about it wrong and wasting time. I am not doing this to avenge what they did to me, only to make the future different. I understand their ignorance. I try to meet all their demands. I need just a bit of their empathy hoard.